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What Friendship Teaches You in Your 30s
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What Friendship Teaches You in Your 30s

When loyalty becomes a lesson, not a life sentence

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Chika Uwazie
Jun 06, 2025
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I thought I’d have friendship all figured out by now.
But in my 30s, I’m still learning who feels like home and who just feels like obligation.

Turns out, the real heartbreak wasn’t losing people.
It was realizing what I used to tolerate.

In my 20s, I thought loyalty meant longevity.
If we’d been friends for years, I assumed it meant we were meant to stay.
Bu…

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